5 common beliefs I don't buy into

A few popular beliefs about life I call complete BS

One of the benefits of healing is a strengthened connection to one's body and, as a result, intuition. After years of learning to trust my gut, I finally feel comfortable relying on my body's wisdom. This skill helps me make small daily decisions (such as what to eat for dinner) and fosters discernment when it comes to beliefs and philosophies.

Here are but a few popular beliefs that make me chuckle.

Belief 1: You have to work hard to earn good money (LOLWHAT?)

Ever since I started questioning this belief (not that long ago), money come into my life with such ease that I stopped talking about it. People seem to have such resistance to receiving money that they create significance around the ways money are made. But what if money can come into your life with ease and not much effort?

Let me be clear, I'm not talking about living off a trust fund, I talk about energy and effort you put into your work. Before becoming a creative, I got qualified as a Mental Health professional and worked in Community Services and Australian Health System. My first job in the field was a position at a drop-in centre that required me to be everything, from a cleaner to an advocate. I changed the bedding, drove clients to their doctor's appointments, answered the so-called warm-line whenever one of the clients felt uneasy, ran group activities, dealt with cops, etc. The list of duties from that job alone can take up the entire page of my CV. Sure, it felt less physically demanding and more dignifying than working at a warehouse but it was bloody exhausting to say the least.

Working hard for fuck all money was my default in Community Services for many years until I got familiar with Access Consciousness and decided to play around with this belief. While looking for a new job I decided I wanted a role that requires so little effort that I can spend my work day writing and studying. I got offered a position that paid the most amount of money I ever received in Mental Health field and asked almost nothing in return. I couldn't believe it! But instead of settling for this miracle job I asked: 'How can it get better than this?' and received an even better offer few months later. This time around the work environment was much more supportive and I no longer had to commute because it was a work-from-home situation.

Since I cracked the energetic code to getting easy-peasy jobs I find earning money effortless.

Belief 2: Life is short

I come across this statement almost every single day and I call it complete BS! It is a package deal belief that goes together with hustle culture, FOMO, and self-improvement capitalism. I always had a little suspicion that this is a lie, but when I heard André De Shields elaborating on his Tony Award acceptance speech it finally fell into place. During the interview André said:

This quote is so inspiring, I recently included it in... a eulogy. Life is long. It appears short. Since I started living as if life was long, I feel much more productive because everything I do I now do out of love, not fear. When you are afraid of missing out, not having enough, loosing time, aging, etc. you are putting your body into a stress-mode that fosters procrastination and 'laziness'. In 2018, I began suspecting that what I call laziness was just a natural outcome of stress but I had no scientific proof to back this idea up. Today, it has become a common knowledge, there are books and podcasts that are dedicated to this topic.

The funny thing is, the older you get the more time you have. When I was 18 and just got into Drama School, I felt like it was too late. When I turned 21, it felt like my life was over. In my mid-thirties I feel younger than I have as a 24 year old. I no longer subscribe to the idea that life is so short you must prepare to be irrelevant by the time you reach 29.

I take my time, every day. I'm not in a hurry to turn all of my screenplays into films, I'm not in a rush to 'settle down', I'm not working around the clock to make sure I write 5 articles a week. I just live a slow conscious life and choose what I want to do. There's not much room left for 'shoulds' in my schedule. My life is so chill I feel like I have retired after 45 years of service.

Belief 3: Certain foods are bad for you

It seems like our society will never stop obsessing about food. Whether it's veganism, dieting, healthy eating, keto, or biohacking, there is always a structure that claims to know a secret to eating well.

I went through stages of worship, from raw veganism and fasting to keto and biohacking. Today, none of these concepts feel like truth to me. I know that even a can of coke and a snickers bar can be of service to my body when I listen to its needs. I no longer care about nutritional psychiatry or biohacking because none of it works if you don't know how to listen to the signals your body sends you.

I don't drink water when I'm not thirsty and I don't plan my meals for the week ahead. I don't weigh myself ever, unless it is required for a medical examination. I don't worry about putting on or losing weight because I trust my body to know what it's doing. In short, I no longer have anxiety around eating healthy, well, or at all, and it seems to be working for me better than any diet or meal plan out there. I haven't had cold in a year and haven't felt depressed in about just as long.

What if the food can be what you believe it will be?

Belief 4: Autism/ADHD limits your life

I knew that I was a highly sensitive person for several years before actually getting an Autism diagnosis in 2022. At some point, my entire life revolved around sensory overwhelm, especially when I shared it with a partially deaf partner whose default volume was yelling. At the same time, I was blaming my study stress on ADHD and inability to focus on one task for longer than a few minutes. My life was hellish. I felt absolutely exhausted all the time and had to spend 3-4 hours on self-care just to get by.

The idea that Autism and ADHD are inconvenient is a construct. The way I see it, both Autism and ADHD are resistance to the absurd reality we have created and now use as a qualitative measure. People with these conditions struggle to flourish in the reality of pacifying overstimulation and exhausting productivity because, wait for it... no one is meant to! The nut-house we call a modern world is completely unsustainable and irrational, yet the majority of people adapted to it. Everyone is having some kind of diagnosed or undiagnosed mental health symptom that signals the mind that things aren't going too well, yet only some people live with Autism or ADHD that renders them incapable of pretending they are okay.

For me, having Autism or ADHD makes more sense than having a stable career in retail. Despite all of our attempts to make our bodies docile they remember the truth. They know that we aren't meant to work so much and sleep so little, to eat kilograms of processed food and drink alcohol to cope with stress. They know our purpose in this lifetime, even if we don't.

Since I stopped looking at Autism and ADHD as a hindrance and began trusting my body's wisdom I don't get overwhelmed as often. If instead of working on assignment I feel like going down the rabbit hole of reading Wiki pages about life of child actors from 1950s Hollywood films, I let myself do it. I no longer have a point of view of being wrong for not forcing myself to do something. I listen. I negotiate. I restructured my life so that I don't have to be part of a rat race. And whenever someone asks me if I'd like to magically get rid of Autism, I say no, I'm fine with the weird and radically honest way of living that is available to me.

Belief 5: Healing is a long and tedious process

Healing takes time. I must admit, I do use this phrase often, although I no longer believe in it. I use it for people who aren't ready for a radical idea that healing can be immediate. No one ever argues with this statement. We're all used to the belief that everything takes time. Only, what if it doesn't?

Sure, I'm saying this as someone who has been healing for more than 5 years. Over that time, I tried many healing modalities, approaches, and techniques. It worked well enough for me to feel better and for my life to improve. But at some point, healing became a part-time job I didn't want. I didn't want to be spending 3-4 hours a day on self-care just to be able to function properly. I didn't want to be on medication. I didn't want to be in therapy for the rest of my life. I didn't want trauma dictate my life. So I asked a question: what can I chose to heal and move on with my life?

The logic of trauma did not make sense to me. It happens, it rewires you, and you get stuck in it pretty much until you die. What if the reversal can be achieved as easy as the damage? For a while, it was just a thought. Later, I began working with an Access Consciousness Facilitator who recommended I try one of many Access Consciousness Body Processes. I did the Bars and quickly realised that it was the thing I've been looking for for a while. Everything just changed. I haven felt down, doubtful or afraid since I got my Bars run.

For someone who relies on science to explain healing process, habit formation, and human psychology the proposition can sounds ludicrous. I get it. But because I've been manifesting things my entire life it didn't sound insane to me at all. I trust that a human being can create anything, including fast healing.

What you think you become.